Today my husband of 25yrs really hurt my feelings and made me cry.?

This morning my husband calls me up at 8am and starts complaining about having to support my son and me. He is a cross country truck driver and when he took the job almost 12yrs ago, we agreed that I would stay home with the 2 kids because he is gone weeks at a time. He promised he would never throw in my face that "He" is the sole supporter. and that's all he's done. The kid's are grown now, but our son 24 still lives with us while he fights a SSI appeal. I have had Agoraphobia as long as I can remember, so what am I to do if I can't even leave the house alone? I understand complaining about our son, he is a free loader, but I'm his wife, I do all his books and taxes (hes owner operator) and run the home keeping it spotless at all times, when he's home I wait on him hand and foot, Keep myself thin and pretty. and he treats me like I'm the freeloader.